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Low Lying Trauma Counselling

Was you childhood neither great nor awful, yet you struggle to feel stable and secure?  Would people have looked at your family and thought it was an okay family, yet for some reason you feel you need help with your emotional/mental well-being?  You may be struggling with low-lying traumas.

 

Low lying trauma are things like not have felt seen for who you were and are, by your caregivers, or even not feeling really loved by them.  Low lying traumas can be the experience of your caregivers not listening to what you had to say and how you felt about things.  Perhaps you were rarely allowed to give your side of the story when there was a problem and you got into trouble based on someone else's words/view.  Perhaps when you did speak up, you would too often be invalidated or told you were wrong.  You could have had a controlling parent that said their way, ideas and thoughts were always right.   

None of these things are damaging if they happen on occasion.  It's when they happen too often or all the time over the days, weeks, months and years, that the volume can add up to have a traumatic effect.  The result is you walk around feeling not seen, heard or validated, so you may feel insecure and struggle to speak up, set boundaries, or know when something is right for you and making decisions is then really hard.

Counselling can help you begin to connect back to yourself and heal.  Counselling can equip you with healing tools that assist you in your daily life.  The counselling process can heal these past events so you no longer doubt yourself much of the time, it becomes more natural and right to set healthy boundaries, and make daily decisions.

It can be puzzling to wonder why you struggle when nothing obviously bad happened, yet you struggle with feeling something isn't right.  It might be hard to feel like a whole person, or to speak up because you don't know you'll be right or heard, or be hard to trust your judgment because you doubt you'll be right.  It also might be hard to value yourself and to set healthy boundaries.  If so, you could be suffering from the effects of low lying traumas, which includes things like not being seen, not being heard and not feeling loved.  It's when you feel your caregiver doesn't really see you, see who you are, even as you daily engage with them.  It looks like saying something to them and they don't really hear you - often enough.  It's can happen when you have a good thought, idea, or insight and they would not recognize you for it.

All of these things happened to all of us some of the time and most people can withstand that.  But if it's happened more regularly over the course of your years of growing up, it may be the cause of your struggles and worth investigating.

Counselling can help you with this.  Counselling can give you a guide to help you understand what happened and how it has impacted you.  Counselling can help you reclaim these areas of you life and became a place to heal for you.